Remind me not to ask Bill Moyer for poetry recommendations. I must have missed this one somehow, as I did not see the message until today. Looks like the original format may be different, as Ian notes, and having the title helps as well:
The Art of Disappearing by Naomi Shihab Nye
When they say Don't I know you?
say no.
When they invite you to the party
remember what parties are like
before answering.
Someone telling you in a loud voice
they once wrote a poem.
Greasy sausage balls on a paper plate.
Then reply.
Is they say We should get together
say why?
It's not that you don't love them anymore.
You're trying to remember something
too important to forget.
Trees. The monastery bell at twilight.
Tell them you have a new project.
It will never be finished.
When someone recognizes you in a grocery store
nod briefly and become a cabbage.
When someone you haven't seen in ten years
appears at the door,
don't start singing him all your new songs.
You will never catch up.
Walk around feeling like a leaf.
Know you could tumble at any second.
Then decide what to do with your time.
Here is some more on Naomi:
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Once we have the title, I would think the interpretation becomes easier. She starts out saying it is better to be anonymous than gregarious. The three-line finish is probably the best part, but I am not sure how that is related to the 'be a loner' advice that went before. The ending seems to me merely a repetition (although well said) of one of the earliest exhortations around: Carpe diem.